Lost Your Mojo? Remember Your ‘Why’!
Your mojo has a lot to do with how resilient you are. Losing that sense of purpose may mean that you need to work at building your resilience. Those people who are naturally resilient tend to bounce back from life’s challenges, embrace stressful situations and handle pressure well. But many of us have to work at it.
I created this acronym to help people work on building their resilience bit by bit, in manageable steps. Which is exactly what we’ll be doing in these articles, focusing on one letter every time:
R - Remember your ‘why’
E - Embrace change
S - Stay active
I - Improve
L - Look
I - Impact
E - Environment
N - Never give up
C - Choices
E - Enjoy
Today, we’re focusing on R – Remember your ‘why’.
So, let’s ask that crucial question – why did you choose to do the job you’re doing, career you’re in, or set out to achieve the goals you set yourself? Remembering your reasons for choosing them will help you get back to that positive mindset you had at the beginning.
Remembering your ‘why’ is key
Maybe you work in healthcare because you love helping people. And now, with all the challenges the NHS is facing, things are hard for you – long hours, tough days and nights – and you’ve ost your mojo. Or perhaps you chose a job that paid well because you needed the regular income to pay the bills and look after your family. Most of us understand that one!
Be honest with yourself. Focus on the reasons why you chose that job or took on those goals. Try to remember how you felt at the time – the positivity that filled you, the joy of the challenge, and how good you felt then. Remembering those emotions and feelings will help to keep you motivated, or at least work towards regaining that motivation.
Motivation generally includes goal setting. When we achieve a goal, we feel good. The more we achieve, the more successful we become. Success doesn’t necessarily mean money, of course. It may mean becoming the best at what you do – maybe you work in the creative or performing arts, training for a triathlon, or perhaps you’re involved in some world-changing scientific study.
Remembering your ‘why’ helps promote a Positive Mindset
If bad days start happening more frequently, remembering your ‘why’ will help to make things easier to cope with. Remembering may not magically transform the day from bad to good, but the more you do it, the more those positive memories will start to shift your mindset. Usually, those bad days quickly get overtaken by the good ones, especially as you’re making an effort to remember your ‘why’ and to shift your mindset to a more positive one.
As well as remembering your ‘why’, there’s another really important point to remember – you need to take action! Do something positive, even if it’s simply writing a list of new goals, or pondering on what made the day bad. Often, if it’s something that went wrong, you can learn and develop from the mistake. But more of that in a later article in this series.
Remember – if you don’t take any action to find your mojo again, nothing happens! Because you can’t get something from nothing. Not taking any action means you get stuck in a rut, which can get worse as we get older. We tend to tell ourselves, “But it’s what I’ve always done…” Or we get bored. Or things just feel too hard. Again, pushing yourself to remember why you started this job, goal, project, whatever, will help to change your mindset.
The actual physical act of remembering your ‘why’, together with taking some simple actions, will help you to grow more resilient, bounce back from problems and stressful situations, and become more successful.
Next Steps to Becoming Resilient
In our next issue, we’ll focus on E – Embrace change. This is a really crucial part of becoming resilient, because without accepting change it’s hard to make any progress. Meaning you remain stuck where you are. So stay tuned to find out how to get unstuck by embracing change! See you in December.
My ‘why’… and Encouraging Resilience in Others
My ‘why’ is two-fold. First, I want to protect my family by earning enough to look after them, pay the bills, and have enough spare money to have fun, go out, travel, creating fantastic memories to look back on. And second, I’ve given myself a goal to motivate a quarter of a million people by the time I’m 65. I’m well on my way to achieving that with my coaching, workshops and speaking events already!
My motivational talks are fast becoming a very positive way to start or end a business event or conference. In my talks, I often use the ‘Remember Your Why’ at the beginning of my speech, which helps to engage the audience and get them thinking about their own situations.